10 Tips to Improving Self-Esteem

 

Low self-esteem can lead to various problems in someone’s career, relationships and personal life. Low self-esteem can easily be transformed into depression which can further affect one’s mental, physical and social disposition.

 

Respected psycho-therapist, Dr. Nathaniel Branden, defines self-esteem as the “disposition to experience oneself as being competent enough to be able to keep up with the challenges in one's life.”

 

The concept of self-esteem is basically all about how one views himself and his place in life itself. It's the overall view of oneself based on reality.

 

Having a healthy self-esteem is important. It gives someone a positive outlook in life and this is reflected in his performance in his job, in his relationships and basically in everything that he does.

 

Here are 10 helpful tips on how one can boost one's self-esteem!

 

1) Accept yourself

People should remember that everyone is unique and beauty is to be found in every human being. Yes, other people can be better in doing certain things but this fact shouldn’t hinder people from being the best that they can be.

 

Everybody is special and unique. A person’s true worth cannot be seen in only one dimension of his life. For example, people usually envy the rich, thinking that they have everything and thus they are the happiest people in the world. However, the best things in life can never be bought by money. Stories of unhappiness among the rich are everywhere around us and this is a sign that wealth cannot be equated with happiness.

 

2) Self-Appreciation

 

Accepting oneself is different from appreciating oneself. Self-acceptance is a pre-requisite to self-appreciation but the latter must always be present. One might accept oneself under a pessimistic light and this is not very healthy. “I accept that I cannot do the things that I really want to do because I am weak” is a sample statement which depicts an unhealthy self-acceptance.

 

Appreciating oneself under a positive light is a definite self-esteem booster. One must highlight the good things about him and try to reinforce them and be better at those things.

 

3) Refrain from Comparing

 

Low self-esteem can be brought on by the environment. Again, this can be traced to the lack of self-acceptance. Everybody is different and you have qualities that no other person has. A general sense of self-worth should be built without comparing oneself to other people.

 

4) Don’t Put Yourself Down

 

Nobody’s perfect. Making a mistake is definitely normal and people should start accepting this fact. People with low self-esteem tend to put themselves even lower by continuously and harshly putting themselves down. An inner voice which reverberates inside their heads tells them that there is no hope. This should not be the case and having control over the inner voices can be the solution for this problem. Cut yourself some slack, you’ve done your best and that’s what’s important.

 

5) Befriend Positive People

 

Having friends who are positive towards dealing with life’s challenges can influence someone into seeing life in the same light and eventually build his self-esteem.

 

6) Remind Yourself of the Positive Things About You

 

Again, there is beauty in everyone. Remember all the things that you like about yourself and the good things which you have done and make a list of the most striking ones. This will help in self-appreciation and definitely give you something to smile about.

 

7) Use tools

 

Buying books, cd’s and other materials about building self-esteem wouldn’t hurt, would it? These materials can definitely provide some informative ways on how to deal with low self-esteem. However, buying these materials would be useless if the lessons which they give are not applied in real life.

 

8) Engage in Fun Activities

 

Having fun once in a while releases stress, takes the negative ideas out of one’s head and leaves space for positive thoughts to fill in. Having fun makes one feel happy about oneself.

 

9) Hangout with Friends

 

Having fun can be done privately but nothing beats fun with friends. Friends are usually a part of the primary support group of a person and can provide much needed conversations for a down-and-out person.

 

10) Seek Help

 

When all else fails, seek help. There’s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself since low self-esteem can lead to more serious problems.

Having low self-esteem can be solved with the right tools and the right attitude. Loving yourself is the ultimate way which leads to a healthier and better “you.”

Please remember this, you have the opportunity to make your dreams real... to actually LIVE the life you desire.

The key is to turn your dreams into specific GOALS... your goals into specific PLANS... and your plans into specific ACTIONS.

Also remember: Nothing changes until you do!

Always use all your inner resources, and work at changing yourself. You must still take action to get results.

 

When your mind and body work together both consciously and subconsciously, you are on the road to health and success.

Wishing you PEACE, PROSPERITY and SUCCESS in all you DO!

Drron :-)